A Coal Miner's Son Struggles with Too Much Family

Sons and Lovers

A mother loves her son into a corner; he tries to paint his way out.

Author
by D. H. Lawrence
Type
novel · Domestic Fiction
Published
1913
Length
Long novel
Status
Public domain
Sons and Lovers summary

The story in one page

In the coal-mining villages of Nottinghamshire, Mrs. Morel finds her marriage to a rough-hewn collier increasingly hollow, redirecting her entire emotional life toward her children. Her favorite, Paul, grows up caught in this suffocating devotion, which complicates his attempts at intimacy with other women. As he matures, Paul toggles between an intellectual, spiritual connection with Miriam and a raw, physical attraction to the married Clara. He constantly returns to his mother for validation, finding himself unable to fully sever the bond even as he pursues art and a career. When his mother eventually dies, Paul is left to face the terrifying emptiness of his own existence alone.

Sons and Lovers characters

Who's who

  • Mrs. Morel

    A stern, highly intelligent mother who dominates her son's emotional life.

  • Paul Morel

    A sensitive, aspiring artist caught between his mother and his lovers.

  • Miriam Leivers

    A spiritual, intense young woman who loves Paul but clashes with his mother.

  • Clara Dawes

    A married woman who engages in a passionate physical affair with Paul.

  • Baxter Dawes

    The estranged, aggressive husband of Clara who eventually clashes with Paul.

Sons and Lovers themes & meaning

What it's really about

Emotional Enmeshment
Mother and son remain pathologically linked.
Industrial Alienation
The pits dominate the landscape and human spirit.

Why it's memorable

  • The pits are like black studs on the countryside.
  • He is a baby that cries for the newest toy.
Sons and Lovers ending

The ending, explained

Spoilers — show the ending

Paul realizes his mother is gone and feels the immense, terrifying silence of the night, yet he refuses to succumb to despair. He turns his back on the darkness and walks toward the glowing lights of the city.

Sons and Lovers discussion questions

For your book club

  1. Is the relationship between Paul and his mother healthy?
  2. How does the industrial setting shape the characters' choices?
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